Wedding season is upon us and with it comes a particular code of etiquette that guests are expected to abide by. When attending a wedding, it’s only polite to meet certain expectations and follow formalities – all while avoiding any tricky faux pas. Don’t worry though! We have all you need to survive the wedding season right here in our handy guide to becoming the perfect guest! Check out our top tips below for more details.
First of all, it is extremely important that you value your invitation. The happy couple may have a very strict limitation on attendees and cost, so the fact you’ve been chosen to come along means a lot. It really is an honour to be invited to somebody’s wedding – and it’s because of this honour that a special wedding etiquette exists.
Make sure you read the invitation properly and understand exactly who is invited. Don’t simply assume that someone is invited if their name is not on the invitation – this is especially true with children. You can’t just assume your kids are invited, as it may be an adults-only affair.
Additionally, it’s important to make sure you turn up to the right part of the day. The last thing the couple needs is for evening-only guests turning up to a packed-out church during the day ceremony.
Respecting your invitation also means respecting the service itself. Don’t be late to proceedings and make sure you appear presentable and that you are dressed appropriately for the occasion. The wedding you are about to attend may follow a familiar format, but there is an equal chance it may belong to a different culture or religion.
Be open to new experiences and pay particular attention and due respect to the customs of others – and above all, enjoy the experience of immersing yourself in a culture that’s new to you.
Some people like to have very traditional, religious weddings, while others lean towards secular ceremonies. When it comes down to it, this is the couple’s day, and therefore you should appreciate their choice of ceremony.
Good etiquette and respect for the ceremony also means turning off your mobile phone, or at least putting it on silent. This is an all-too-common piece of advice in almost any given formal situation these days – as we continue to inch towards an ‘always-on’ mentality. You might use your phone as a camera, which is fair enough, but make sure it’s on silent so as not to disrupt proceedings.
This is where you can really set yourself apart from the other guests to become the most gracious of them all! This is a romantic day full of love, passion and beautiful decoration. Your gift should reflect this and echo the spirit of the occasion. A set of kitchen utensils will be a handy new house gift for the married couple – but it’s hardly romantic, is it?
A selection of beautiful wedding gift candles can encapsulate all of these values in a beautiful package, tailor-made for the lucky couple. For an additional thoughtful touch, see if you can find out the wedding’s colour scheme early on and buy a candle that matches.
Take amazing shots, but don’t be an annoying photographer. Getting the balance right is the trick here. Surprising your bride and groom with a snap-shot selection of excellent memories, that they didn’t even notice you take, will help make you the ultimate wedding guest. It’s free photography – without the fuss! You’re contributing towards photographic memories the couple will treasure for years to come.
However, this is only the case if you take photos inconspicuously! No one likes to be bothered with photo ops – especially when you’re not the one who has been hired to snap pics of the big day. A zoom lens or a compact camera should allow you to get the perfect shot from wherever you are sat; get creative with your angles, focal points and camera settings – just don’t get in the way!
There’s always one, isn’t there? Well, don’t be that person. Dress appropriately, don’t criticise, and make an extra effort to be polite and courteous to everyone you meet.
Mingle with the other guests and be sociable – you’ve been invited to enjoy yourself and participate, so do so! Kick back and enjoy the celebration of love and marriage. If you have unruly children in tow, be prepared to take them out until they are quiet and ready to return.
This really goes without saying, and coincides with much of what is mentioned above. It’s very easy to get carried away in the spirit of things at a wedding. The conversation is flowing, people are having a great time and the general atmosphere is a positive one – but don’t ruin that by drinking irresponsibly.
That’s it for our list of wedding season survival tips. Be sure to stick to these principles and you’ll be able to get the most out of each wedding you attend this summer.
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